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Saturday, May 11, 2013

单身男女们相亲为什么失败?

解析相亲失败五大理由

NO1. 热心盲目的介绍人

热心盲目的介绍人
  总有那么些七大姑八大姨的亲戚,八竿子打也打不着,却偏偏爱为你操心。小时候担心你书念不好,长大了又担心你嫁不掉,早早地就在她们力所能及的范围内帮你物色结婚人选。“某某有房有车事业稳固,人又老实”是听得你耳朵生茧的台词。再一打听,那人是她对门老姐妹的三叔的远房亲戚的儿子,她也没见过,连长相都是“听说”挺周正。
  介绍人本身对双方的情况都不了解,仅是凭着一腔热情,想当然地来撮合两个看起来门当户对的年轻人,失败自然不言而喻。
  都说婚姻好比鞋子,虽说都是一只左脚配一只右脚,可是你能把左脚的运动鞋和右脚的凉鞋硬凑成一双,再穿着出门吗?

NO2. 喧宾夺主的最佳损友

喧宾夺主的最佳损友
  女人相亲时一般拿不定主意,思量后约上一帮子闺中密友来帮自己出谋划策,结果很私人的相亲事件,变成了老朋友久别重逢的大聚会。聚会中买单的男主角如果入了她们的法眼,谈笑风生便不在话下,从你几岁开始换牙,到对内衣的品味,所有的隐私一定帮你统统曝光。就算对方不被你的朋友吓退,也会担心不久的将来,自己跟你谈情说爱的隐私被当作笑料统统踢爆。
  如果男主角长相欠佳,那不等你开口,那几张冷脸就已经先给人家送了过去。物以类聚,人以群分,受尽冷眼的男主角难免会从你身边的朋友来揣测你的为人。最惨的是你看顺眼的对象恰巧看上了你的好朋友,那你就更加欲哭无泪了。以此看来,相亲时带着最佳损友前往,无疑也是相亲失败的重要原因之一。 · 缠绵情事始于一场预谋的引诱

NO3. 错误的地点和时间

错误的地点和时间
  可能是因为所有的报章杂志都在有意无意地宣传,香槟烛光小提琴是一切美好浪漫的开始,所以为了增加相亲的成功率,你很有可能就把相亲地点选在所谓有情调的地方。但说到底,环境在整个相亲过程中只是起陪衬烘托的作用,相亲地点的选择还要考虑到自己的实际情况,因人而异。
  如果你是一个夸张可爱的哈韩MM,那高雅庄重的西餐厅,显然就跟你不登对,不但不能彰显你的个性还会引来众人侧目。相反,一个干练的职业美女出现人声鼎沸的游乐场,也会让人觉得怪异。
  同样,选择相亲的时间也十分重要。刚出完差,刚开完长会,刚吵完架……类似这种身心疲惫的情况都不要急急地赶去相亲,大好的情缘如果只是因为不合时宜的时间地点而白白错过,岂不可惜?

NO4. 过分在意,过分不在意

过分在意,过分不在意
  女人都深知第一印象的重要性,何况是关系到自己终身幸福的大事,所以一提到相亲,难免兴师动众地描眉画眼,再配上自己压箱底的礼服盛装出席,本想给对方最佳印象,却往往未收到预期效果。换个角度想,此种情形就好比你看到对面坐了一个无论严寒酷暑都西装领带无一不缺,头发一丝不苟,皮鞋锃亮的业务男一样,难以产生好感。所以相亲时太过隆重的造型,说不定会适得其反,让人觉得做作不堪。
  另一方面,即便相亲的本身不是自己情愿,但外表上起码要给对方以被尊重的感觉,太过随意的T恤牛仔难免也会令人联想到你为人的随便。
  相亲开头便相见不欢,那自然不会有心情更进一步了解,结果就只能一拍两散。

NO5. 功利化的相亲

功利化的相亲
  相亲的目的原本是极其纯粹的,各自到了男大当婚女大当嫁的年纪,经由熟人介绍,寻一个情投意合的人来厮守终身。可自从男人喊出了“挣大钱娶美女”的口号,就明确了女人“嫁个有钱的人”远大志向。 
  女人不惜花巨资也要把自己打造得绝世倾城,是因为她深知自己的身材相貌是跟男人的事业钞票成正比的。相亲已经演变成了一场功利化的谈判,女人自身的身材相貌就是要求男人事业钞票最有说服力的筹码。
  资质平庸的女人,就退而求其次,遇到合适的对象,忙不迭地细细盘问对方的身家,再暗自里打一遍自己的小九九。婚姻这样的事一旦明码标价,就如同菜市场任人挑选的萝卜白菜一样廉价。不过谁都不是傻子,原本目的就不纯粹的相亲,你指望它能有什么好的结果?  

Sunday, April 28, 2013

Don't worry about keeping him/her interested. Just BE interesting!

Last week, a blog post containing a letter from a father to his daughter (about her future husband) went viral.  Why?  Because it was real, it was touching, and speaks to everyone.  It all started when the father saw this Google suggested search result:

"How to keep him interested"

Sunday, March 31, 2013

"红色出强": Singles, have you thought about wearing red?

Sometimes little things can have strong effects.  The color of clothing that people choose to wear can be deliberately chosen to achieve certain responses, such as black for seriousness or coolness, or green for a holiday like St. Patrick's Day.

But what if science has shown that women are more likely to attract attention from men if she appears wearing a certain color?

Sunday, March 24, 2013

Are your Photos Worth a Thousand Words? Tips for Profile Photos!

Are you ready to let the world of online singles see your best side? After all, the person of your dreams could be searching 2RedBeans for your profile right now! 抓紧时间;把握机会  and make the best impression that you can...


"But taking time to pick photos is shallow and 无聊!" you might be thinking. "If the person searching for me is really a great person/intelligent/sensitive/a great match for me, they won't care what I look like!  Right?"

Friday, March 15, 2013

Picture Perfect


There's no getting around it: we humans are very visual creatures!  Although we usually don't try to judge a book by its cover, we still make unconscious decisions based on appearance.  When online dating, the photos you use can either help you succeed, or lead to constant disappointment... 


On one hand, you shouldn't over-analyze the importance of your profile photos, since they are only part of your online presence and personality on 2RedBeans.  

But on the other hand, keep in mind that there are many good reasons to advertise for yourself when looking for Mr. or Ms. Right!

Friday, February 15, 2013

Speed dating matches 119 pairs

Our 2/10 speed dating had a great turn out.  82 people showed up at the event.  And we have 119 pairs of matches!!



Among the 82 participants, 8 people didn't submit their results.  We are collecting feedbacks right now. Will publish the feedback in a few days.  :)

We are so happy that so many of you got matches.  Please follow up and we hope you all have a great time!  Don't forget to tell us know if you find that special someone in this event.  :)

Happy Valentine's day!

Friday, February 1, 2013

2RedBeans is 2 years old!

Thank you, friends and families, for giving us your unmitigated support.  And for being there when we need a hand to help climb out of the bottom.

Thank you, dear users, for telling us about your love stories all this time.  These stories propels us forward.  These stories put smiles on our faces in good times, and keeps us pushing in bad time.  So please keep them coming!

Without you, we couldn't have reached where we are right now!  So, on our 2 year birthday, we thank you from the bottom of our hearts!


两颗红豆两岁了!

感谢在这些日子里一直关心我们的家人和朋友,是你们坚定无悔的支持,帮助我们在困难的时候走出低谷,重新拼搏。

感谢我们的用户们。你们找到心爱之人的故事,不但感动着我们,更让我们不断前进提高。阳光明媚的日子里,听到你们的故事,我们每个人脸上都会有怎么也抹不去的笑容。心情灰暗的日子里,听到你们的故事,鼓舞着我们,让我们知道,不能停下前进的脚步。

在两颗红豆2岁生日之际,我们在此给所有的朋友表示深深的感谢。有你们,我们走的更开心,更勇敢。